Saturday, January 03, 2015
Early on Tuesday morning, a Dover, N.H. man named Mark LaVoie walked into a hospital and shot his wife and then himself, killing them both. Although authorities have remained tight-lipped about the incident, as there is an ongoing investigation, friends and family members confirmed the identity of the man and his wife, Katherine.
Early on Tuesday morning, a Dover, N.H. man named Mark LaVoie walked into a hospital and shot his wife and then himself, killing them both.
Although authorities have remained tight-lipped about the incident, as there is an ongoing investigation, friends and family members confirmed the identity of the man and his wife, Katherine.
It appears that Mark killed his wife Katherine “out of love” in the private hospital room she was registered in, based on a heartbreaking, but incredibly calm and rational final post to Facebook that he made before committing the murder/suicide, according to The Blaze.
(NOTE: It appears that Mark LaVoie’s Facebook page has been taken down, but his entire post was preserved and published by the Boston Globe.)
“I want to start off by saying this is going to be officially ruled a murder/suicide when in all actuality it is a double suicide. My baby was trying to escape the bi-polar demons that have been swirling around in her brain since childhood and now because of my selfishness in dialing 911 she is experiencing the only thing she feared more than her illness…life support on a respirator.(Even though I brought her living will, the doc said her wishes didn’t apply because depression isn’t a non-reversible state. I however did not see that stipulation.) I am more than happy to sacrifice my life to fix my doing and join her spirit in a happier place. I just wanted let (sic) people know my thoughts as to why I am doing this, weather you can understand it or not.”
I never did end up getting a will, living or otherwise so I would like to make a couple points clear and hopefully posting this on here will be enough to get my wishes honored. If FB deletes it I have a copy saved on my laptop. Everything I own including the house and anything else Kathy left to me in her will is to be split evenly between Kori Ricker and Tara Ricker-Maus. I also have a 401 at Portsmouth Ford and Berlin City Ford, the paperwork should be in the filing cabinet in my bedroom) You will need to figure out how to split the house, co-ownership, one buying the other out or sell it and split the profit. Also please assure the pets are cared for.”
“I would like someone to volunteer to get this next issue resolved, if nobody does could you please take care of this Jan and Dan Roberge and spare the kids? There should be plenty in the checking and savings accounts to take care of it. Go to any funeral parlor they should be able to take care of the whole thing. We are both donors so have them send our bodies to a tissue processing facility (not sure what they are called) then they will send us to a crematorium. I don’t care what is done with the ashes but I know Kathy loves Damariscotta Lake. Though a difficult subject I hope my family whom I love dearly can make some sense of what I’m doing though unless you have dealt directly with mental illness if will be difficult.”
“In case FB deletes this for whatever reason I saved a copy to my laptop and hopefully it will be enough to get my wishes followed.”
“Please don’t mourn for me, my spirit will be in a much better place with my soul mate; you may even catch a glimpse of us from time to time.”
“Well in all the years I’ve been on FB I never was one for posting any drama…..I was due one.”
“Love you all, peace out!”
While there is most likely much more to this story than meets the eye, most people tend to fall into one of two camps regarding this incident.
Some people look at this as a final act of love and sacrifice by a husband for his wife.
She was obviously struggling with a mental illness, and could have already signaled her wish to take the easy way out, particularly if she had already attempted suicide on her own, which the post alludes to.
Her husband took her life, and his own, to save her from further suffering in the hospital, hooked up to machines, due to a mental disease that she would likely never fully recover from.
However, others may look at this as little more than murder, and a selfish act on the part of Mr. LaVoie, who chose to take his wife’s life and his own, rather than deal with mounting medical bills and further suffering, not only on his wife’s part, but his own.
Regardless of where one comes down on this issue, it remains quite tragic.
It should be noted though that the man seems to have done his best to tie up as many loose ends as he could, and see to it that all the final moves that must be made post-death would be taken care of, sparing the family as much pain as possible.